Everything. And if I say everything, I mean everything. Here a short list during gym today:

(Alone during my gym session I listened to following):

Alan Jackson - Countryboy… Parkway Drive - Crushed… Bullet for my Valentine - Waking the Demon… Flogging Molly - Devils dance floor… Jimmy Buffett - A pirate looks at forty… Dub FX - Love someone… Taylor Swift - Blank Space… Carnifex - Die without hope… Iron Maiden - Run to the Hills… Jake Owen - Barefoot blue jeans night… Shabboozey - A Bar song… Luke Combs - When it rains it pours… Parkway Drive - Sleepwalker… Dropkick Murphys - The Seasons… The Notorious Big - Juicy… Run DMC - It’s Tricky… Paris Hilton - Stars are blind… Tupac - Changes… XZibit - … …

I listen to all genres, no genre is bad all good songs no songs bad. I never heard a song that was bad in my life.

Sometimes my gym sessions have all genres but most of the time it isn’t all random. Sometimes I go to the gym and just listen to Metalcore, another time I listen to Country, Radio, … another time the 90s HipHop or just random stuff.

I’ve worked in a few hospitals, and honestly, I wouldn’t want to be taken care of in any of the places I’ve worked. I’ve seen enough to know that. It’s funny—every nurse and doctor I meet says the same thing about the hospitals they’re in. It’s like a weird, unspoken truth in healthcare: we all agree it’s not ideal. So, in the end, maybe it’s better not to be in a hospital at all if you can help it.

It goes deeper than that though. The more I think about life in general, the more I realize it’s all a bit of a show. We’re all just putting on a facade. You see people who are supposed to be experts—whether it’s contractors, doctors, or even people you look up to personally—and then you see what they actually do behind the scenes. It’s basic, at best. I mean, I had “experts” drywalling for me recently, and what they did was laughable. These people were getting paid for this!

Same with my dad. Growing up, I thought he was this master of all trades—could do anything from building stuff in the yard to fixing things around the house. Now? I look at some of the things he’s done and realize it’s all just… okay. Not bad, but not perfect. And I think he knew that too, but we both kind of lived under the illusion that he was this all-knowing guy who could do everything.

It’s not that he’s bad at it, but perfection is something you rarely find unless you do it yourself. And if you’re like me, maybe you can’t even do it yourself. So, no matter what you do, you’re always left with something that’s just good enough.

I’ve seen million-dollar homes—didn’t buy one cause I’m not rich—but even those fancy places have problems behind the walls. No matter how much money they throw at things, it doesn’t make the work any better. The people doing the job don’t care as much as they should, because they know they’re getting paid no matter what. And the inspectors? They don’t care either. They’re just looking to check boxes, not actually do a good job.

It’s frustrating because this isn’t just about contractors or hospitals. It’s everything—in every job, in every aspect of life. People just don’t care. Even the so-called “experts” are often just figuring it out as they go, doing the bare minimum to get by. And honestly, I’m no different. I’m just getting by too, month after month, like most adults pretending they know what they’re doing.

It’s like, once you realize this, everything feels a little less magical. Perfection is out of reach. People aren’t who you think they are. And if you want something done right, you either need to do it yourself or accept that it’s never going to be perfect.

I watched (listened) to Linken Park songs and ended up at mr. pimple popper huge pimple exploding and some asians with blurry faces popping it.

Great time to be alive

Suzanne Vega - Luka

Sounds like its a 70-80s song lol.

That song was running up and down 2010 when I was doing my finals in school (1th grade, germany) and world cup.

Greatest summer.

Well I offer my help where I can, but it always was like: “We are already enough people but thanks anyways.” as responses before I built my house.

So I asked my one friend who is actually the “organizer” of our friend group if he needs help moving but he always said: “Thanks I’ll reach out if we need more people but we are enough thanks.” And he never really reached out and asked for my help. Same goes with two others I offered to help them when moving in 2021 during Covid but they declined cause of Covid rules… So yeah I offered everyone my help in some way in the past but no one really needed my help.

So in my case I never helped anyone but I offered my help. That is one reason why I didn’t directly ask my friends for help either because well I never helped them (even if I wanted to) so was hoping they’d just ask if I need help like I asked them.

But in the end I would have also refused to get help from them but it would have been nice if someone asked.

Kind of okay.

I’m focusing a lot on myself since January and been going to the gym a lot.

I am noticing though that I am being excluded to things I haven’t been excluded before by some of my friends. We use to go hang around and drink a lot, they still drink a lot in fact but it’s just not my goal anymore.

I feel like I am slowly losing a ton of friends. And at the age of 33 it’s really hard to find other friends. Not that I want to replace them or they did anything bad to me besides not asking me to go out anymore for obvious reasons that I don’t want to drink anymore… but it’s still kind of a scary process.

I am really wondering if I should just reduce gym and drink again. But at the same time I love going to the gym now and really am not in the mood for hangovers at 32.

And once you did that all you have to do is

I think I asked myself what happens if I do this another decade and where I might be.

I saw my belly fat, my chest fat, looked at myself and signed up for gym. Reading into gym and how to progresse efficiently gave it all an end cause I need protein, I need healthy fats I need good carbs and the most important: Water, Rest (good quality sleep) and no stress.

All this doesn’t allow for weekends drinking or drinking in general. Yes I do drink on vacations a beer or two but I notice after a beer I actually don’t like the taste. My cheat drink now is cappucinos lol.

Yeah could be. But how do I know how much I damaged my brain the last decade with all this drinking “for fun”?

Thanks I try

I don’t drink beer and in my country I have no Walmart. I also don’t use social media besides Lemmy anymore and I eat clean protein rich food every meal since 6 months.

1-2x Mal pro Woche normal.

Yeah I am doing Push Pull Leg Day, each of them twice a week.

So all of my exercises have 10 reps. The first two exercises 4 sets and the others ones currently 3 sets ( I am too exhausted for more) only abs I do 5 sets of 15

So for example Pull day: 4x10 Lat Pulldowns 4x10 Cable rows (seated) close grip 4x10 T Bar rows wide grip 5x15 Cable Crunches 3x10 Dumbbells curls

For Push Day: 4x10 Bench Press 4x10 Cable Flys 3x10 Shoulder Press (seated, dumbbells) 3x10 Triceps Pushdowns (cable) 5x15 Leg raises

Monday and Thursday are my Chest, Shoulder, Triceps Tuesday and Friday my Back, Lats, Biceps Wednesday and Saturday my Leg days.

Just aesthetics and general fitness

Alkohol ist so schlimm.

Ich habe Jahre meines Lebens verschwendet und mit meinem “Freundeskreis” getrunken ohne Ende. Der einzige gemeinsame Nenner war tatsächlich Alkohol. Hauptsache trinken, egal bei welcher Aktivität. Ob Städte Trip, Brettspiele, einfach so.

Es ist so tief in unserer Gesellschaft verankert und man merkt erst wie problematisch es ist, wenn man mal in so einem Kreis äußert: “Heute trinke ich nichts” und man sich zwar nicht rechtigen muss, aber möchte, weil im Unterton ein: “Warum nicht?! Bist du verrückt?” mitschwingt.

Es ist interessant, weil wenn eine komplette Gruppe regelmäßig trinkt und sich sgar Apps runterlädt und ein Wettbewerb daraus macht wer am meisten Bier im Jahr schafft, man selbst glaubt, es sei völlig normal so viel zu trinken und es kann sogar soweit gehen, dass sich manch einer fragt: “Warum schaffe ich nicht so viele Bier?”.

Wer über 25 ist und viele Bier und Cocktails trinken kann und am nächsten Morgen noch “normal” funktionieren kann hat meiner Meinung nach die Kontrolle über sein Leben verloren und sollte sich mal Gedanken machen. Es ist nichts, worauf man stolz sein kann.

Die günstigen Preise, die Verfügbarkeit (überall) und die Akzeptanz bzw. teilweise das Erwarten der Gesellschaft zu “trinken” ist nicht gerade vorteilhaft.

Mache seit einigen Jahren Sport und trinke sehr selten was. Neulich meine alte Freundesgruppe getroffen und ist noch unverändert. Der einzige Unterschied ist: ich sehe aus wie 25, die wie 40.

I do 4 Sets of 10 in all exercises… once I can eadily do 15 I increase weight a bit

Achso… ich komme gar nicht mehr hinterher wer alles (zurecht) streikt. Danke für die Info.

“Für BVG-Vorständin Jenny Zeller-Grothe sind die Verdi-Forderungen zu hoch.”

Man könnte ja die Vorstände entlassen und Geld einsparen, damit Personen die täglich hart arbeiten auch fair entlohnt werden könnten?

Wir reden hier nicht von Manager Gehälter, sondern Gehälter um “Überleben” zu können.

Ich glaube BVG wäre auch ohne eine Jenny nicht aufgeschmissen.

Weiß nicht wie die Lage bei so Tesla Gegenden ist, aber bei uns wird in allen Bereichen viel gesucht - und nicht gefunden.