I’m sorry you were molested but you cannot expect strangers to refrain from playing with each other to respect triggers they don’t even know exist. I know it sucks, I know it can even feel like physical pain. But they are not psychic and while we did not ask for trauma, it is our responsibility at the end of the day, not theirs. They’re just having fun and they should be able to do that.
Strangers tend to be humans. I expect humans to be machines for making the world worse.
I don’t expect humans to respect my boundaries, quite often, because a large number of humans gain profit from oppressing each other.
Kindness might feel like or look like a choice, but it truly comes from understanding. Lord Buddha came across some children fishing, and asked them how they would react to a hook piercing their cheek, for example.
The concept of ‘me’ as exclusive from other living beings is what allows for harmful distinctions to be made, where ‘me’ can exploit others for profit. In reality, ‘me’ is just one of many living beings, and we are all born, feel pain, and die.
This is a shit post. If you’re setting boundaries it would be wise to not say things that sound like a joke (“I’ll bite you”, “checkmate”) so people don’t make sexual jokes in response.
That was a manner of speech. No one actually cares about your wisdom or level thereof as you gauge it, but you’re ignoring much objectivity in your refusal to acknowledge it was perhaps you who did the minor social error.
What a wild level of self entitlement to post a public comment and then insist everyone else respect your unstated personal boundaries, like they should know your trauma and you’re not the one walking into an obviously sexual space.
Yeah, no touching, thanks. I was molested as a child and didn’t enjoy it.
If that makes me ‘innocent’, whatever.
I’m sorry you were molested but you cannot expect strangers to refrain from playing with each other to respect triggers they don’t even know exist. I know it sucks, I know it can even feel like physical pain. But they are not psychic and while we did not ask for trauma, it is our responsibility at the end of the day, not theirs. They’re just having fun and they should be able to do that.
Strangers tend to be humans. I expect humans to be machines for making the world worse. I don’t expect humans to respect my boundaries, quite often, because a large number of humans gain profit from oppressing each other.
I wish it weren’t so. Kindness is often just a choice.
Kindness might feel like or look like a choice, but it truly comes from understanding. Lord Buddha came across some children fishing, and asked them how they would react to a hook piercing their cheek, for example.
The concept of ‘me’ as exclusive from other living beings is what allows for harmful distinctions to be made, where ‘me’ can exploit others for profit. In reality, ‘me’ is just one of many living beings, and we are all born, feel pain, and die.
Probably a bad idea to engage with a post about touching prostates then
I’m sorry that you’re uncomfortable that I have boundaries. Maybe it’s a bad idea for you to engage in society, because you’re not very good at it.
This is a shit post. If you’re setting boundaries it would be wise to not say things that sound like a joke (“I’ll bite you”, “checkmate”) so people don’t make sexual jokes in response.
That’s not a joke. I will bite you. Don’t touch me without my consent.
If you do enjoy touching people without their consent, consider fucking right off.
I am under no obligation to be wise for your benefit. I am wise for my own benefit. Good day.
That was a manner of speech. No one actually cares about your wisdom or level thereof as you gauge it, but you’re ignoring much objectivity in your refusal to acknowledge it was perhaps you who did the minor social error.
Good thing I don’t care. I’m sure someone else with boundaries you don’t approve of will come along, in time, for you to tut at.
Good day.
What a wild level of self entitlement to post a public comment and then insist everyone else respect your unstated personal boundaries, like they should know your trauma and you’re not the one walking into an obviously sexual space.