And they’re just so basic and completely miss the point in the case of number two. In fact I’d argue the issue now a days is that we disregard feelings too much. Not from a reasoning standpoint but from the standpoint of what is “true” to me, personal morals etc. People try so hard to reason their way out of situations you need to emotion your way out of. Like relationship troubles.

As a mental health provider, I have to seriously disagree with you here. Emotions and thoughts are inextricably linked, but there is no way to “emotion” your way through a problem. Emotions are like data about yourself, or at least yourself in that moment, but people frequently misinterpret them to be data about the external world. They can corrupt your reasoning, but they also motivate us and serve as the gatekeepers to our decision-making processes. I had a girlfriend in college who essentially operated on the mantra “I feel hurt; ergo, you hurt me.” That’s just plain toxic and a perfect example of why relying on emotions to tell you about reality is a bad idea. There is no “my truth,” there’s just “the truth,” and your feelings don’t have much to do with it at all.

For “Us vs Them” all I can garner from what they write is that they think we should listen to bigots because there might be merit in their reasoning.

No, that’s not what Haidt was saying, and I actually think you just proved his point by categorizing everyone who sees things differently than you as a “bigot.” If you’ve ever seriously engaged with someone from the other side of the political aisle from you, and you aren’t being a closed-minded bigot yourself, you should be able to see that most people from your opposition aren’t cartoonish, two-dimensional villains, but human beings just as complex and intelligent as you who have reasons for thinking what they do. Furthermore, the process should illuminate for you the fact that you have your own biases and flaws, to the point where trying to sort out who is right and who is wrong becomes dizzyingly complex at times. The point is: 99% of the time, it’s not as black-and-white as “virtuous progressive” vs. “insidious bigot.”

That leaves us with the fragility untruth. And here I see at least some merit. The extreme levels of fear in society in general (when we’re by most metrics safer than ever) spewed on by media and news in all forms is making parents safeguard their kids from life. Ultimately leading to kids missing out of a ton of self-exploration and learning from mistakes.

Yes, but when you dismiss the other two points like you did, I’m not sure you really grasp how this is intimately connected to them. You see how we should allow children to explore and learn from their mistakes on, say, a playground that isn’t 100% foam-padded, but not how we should also expose them to ideological disagreements, and teach them that their feelings don’t inherently justify anything–just because they feel a certain way about something doesn’t mean reality corresponds.

Did you watch the talk or just read the summary that was posted? If you didn’t watch the video, I’d really recommend you do. Haidt illustrates how these concepts interact and goes into a lot more detail than that summary does justice to.