How to you come to terms with the fact that you will eventually not exist?

Rant: This has been keeping me up at night for way too long and every time I think about it I feel like am literally choking on my own thoughts. I have other shit to do but everything seems so inconsequential next to this. I just can’t comprehend why or how the universe even exists or how a bunch of atoms can think or that quantum mechanics literally revealed that the world is not loaded when you are not looking like how tf do you know that I am observing something.

Btw I am not looking for a purpose in life although this may be interpreted as me asking for that.

If anyone has the same problem as me good luck my friend just know that you are not alone.

  • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    My friend invites me to her party.

    I have two options. I can tell her no, because as fun as the party will be, I can’t handle the fact that it’s going to end a few hours after I get there. Or, I can go and have fun, despite knowing that it’s going to end.

    • flambonkscious@sh.itjust.works
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      1 year ago

      Yeah, this is great! I’ve been down and apathetic for years and recently been coming around to ‘what’s the best thing I can do for now’ or ‘how can I make the best of this’ but the party analogy us a really helpful take.

  • Okkai@lemm.ee
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    Rant:

    I had a pretty intense acid trip once and came to the conclusion that nothing matters, there is no meaning to life, there is only an illusion of free will, and most likely our existence and personal experiences in life will be completely forgotten within 3 generations (almost like we never existed to begin with). I was super duper depressed after that for several months.

    It eventually gave me a different outlook on life though. If it’s only temporary and there is no meaning, I can create my own meaning and enjoyment in life. Live in the moment, do what you want, and create as much meaning and enjoyment for yourself as you can while you have the opportunity. Don’t worry about what others might think because eventually their existence is going to be forgotten as well.

    The act of dying might suck, but being dead and not existing seems very serene. Sometimes things just sort of end.

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      For me death is what gives life a meaning. No game is fun if you have to play it forever, no quest can be finished no boss is ever defeted. Things need to end. That is how Evolution works things have to change or everything is just frozen in time. The difficulty of decissions comes from their finality. You cant go back to school. You can’t go back and ask this person out. So your life might be meaningless in the grand scheme of it all but it metters in the short period of our existence. Does it really matter if you stand up each morning? It actually does.

  • confluence@lemmy.world
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    I remember that I didn’t exist before and that was fine.

    A touch of humility helps too… why should I get benefits that beetles and dogs don’t?

    Life only exists because of death. I wouldn’t want to take life away from the world by avoiding something I’m not meant to avoid.

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      I dont think anyone can exist without taking life from the world. Each meal is taking life away from this world, even vegans deny a seed a chance to become a plant, or injure a plant by harvesting it.

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    Try to remember, you have not existed before, this isn’t something new.

    And the fact that nothing matters means that we get to choose what matters ourselves, it could be money, fame, competence, love. You get to choose what to invest your time in and your choices will change the world bit by bit.

    What kind of world do you want to help create?

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      I’ve been forced to exist and not exist. THAT’S TWO WHOLE THINGS. I Didn’t even wanna do one thing! Someone has to pay for this! I wanna speak to a manager.

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        You are not alone, some people believe that at the very end instead of ceasing to exist, you do, in fact, get to speak to the manager.

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    All this time I thought that an existential crisis was having a crisis about the fact that you exist, not about the fact that you will not exist in the future.

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    Made a movie about it with a toy company’s money.

    Remember that the way you are right now doesn’t have to be your ending, and you can grow beyond your roots and find your humanity again.

    Postmodernist cynicism had it’s time in the sun, but now it’s time for a New Sincerity: So what if you live in a world where nothing matters, when you’ve always had the capability to choose what matters to you?

  • KurtVonnegut [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    quantum mechanics literally revealed that the world is not loaded when you are not looking

    I don’t know where you got that info, but that is not at all what quantum mechanics says. If you want a deep dive into what quantum mechanics actually says, here’s a good video series from PBS by a real physics professor that explains it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wxG5KMAFik&list=PLsPUh22kYmNCGaVGuGfKfJl-6RdHiCjo1&index=1

  • Kindness@lemmy.ml
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    Existential Crises Have an End.

    How would you deal with an indeterminate life?

    What if you just continued to exist without end, watching everything you love disappear? Family, friends, trends, places, things. Everything is ephemeral, including you. But if you weren’t, what purpose would your life serve? If you had no end? What meaning is there in existing indefinitely? Would you seize the day? Make every day count? Would you just exist without putting any effort in? Would you turn in circles asking yourself why you, what for, to what end if you have none? What would you look like, if you had an infinite amount of time to puzzle over the question you’re asking yourself now?

    For me, the situation didn’t change. So what if I’ve got an infinite lifespan? The “Big Questions” are practically the same. When I look at how mind-boggling the universe is compared to me, how huge; how intricate; how minuscule the pieces are; and how (in)significant I am, it’s easy to get lost in between. Then I’ll take a deep breath, see the beauty of everyday mundanity, and remind myself: I don’t need to go looking for the big picture. For me, I should be the big picture.

    There is an ominous, unknown, and imagined cloud, which exists only in your mind. You may go about fearing it, and make the time before the actual storm more miserable. Alternatively, and possibly preferably, you can laugh, cry, and spend your time doing what’s best for you and those around you. Not a purpose, just a mindset. And that’s my big picture. My tapestry. The story I tell is guaranteed to end, be forgotten. But my decisions, I am bound to live with… for a lifetime. Until the end of my tapestry. Focus less on what is outside your tapestry, unless you like it. You can decide some of the things that enter your tapestry, if you are conscious and purposeful about obtaining it.

    Perhaps a more practical answer is: When you are doing something, do it. Reserve your focus for what you want to focus on.

    You have a finite amount of time in front of you, right now. Question for question, what are you going to do with that time?

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    I actually had comfortable morning. I thank you for yet another fun experience of existential crisis.

    So much happened before you opened your eyes for the first time, so much will happen after you close them for the last time.

  • HowMany@lemmy.ml
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    How do you deal with a existential crisis?

    I bring in the heavy guns… that’s right, the Ghost Busters.

    "“My philosophy is that worrying means you suffer twice.” - Newt Scamander

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    Eventually you learn - not just rationally, but also behaviourally - that insignificance gives you a sort of freedom. Even if not solving the most important questions in the universe, you still got to live your life. Your pleasure might be meaningless, but so is your suffering - so you’re free to choose one, another, both, or neither.

    Kind of off-topic, but regarding QM: what you’re saying is the Copenhagen interpretation. I tend to side more with Einstein in this, the moon doesn’t “magically” stop existing once you stop looking at it; it’s just that the difference between “it exists” and “it doesn’t exist” becomes insignificant from your subjective PoV.

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    The Book of Ecclesiastes might be helpful here. “Everything is meaningless!”

    Its conclusion is to find stuff you enjoy doing and do it because you enjoy doing it.

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    Man, I can’t wait until the day I don’t exist anymore. My existential crisis is that I’m currently forced into existing.