• Sharkfur@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    Cab you tell me more about that? I don’t have experience with non monogamous relationships, but I always assumed that it is exhausting. At least when you don’t just sleep with each other but also share your emotions.

    • Phoebe@feddit.de
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      1 year ago

      I don’t think living/being poly is as exhausting as keeping up other relationships. It is more exhausting to lie and to hide when you are cheating. Cause you create a mask and by that causing a distance to your partner.

      Our society has a big focus on momogamous romantic relationship. Family, friends, other relationships variants… “not that desirable”. Even i, a monogamous, find that… exhausting. My family always fights with each other, my friends are busy working. Who is left to connect to?

      I love my boyfriend. But i often wish for more connection with other people (non romantic and non sexual). Just hanging out, sharing thoughts and emotions. Without being afraid of vurnability. But that means to make time for friends, to stop having a grugde with the family.

      Every relationship is exhausting, but the connection it’s worth the effort.