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Cake day: November 27th, 2023

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  • Speaking from personal experience, knowing that there’s a reason I behave a certain way has been pretty liberating. I spent my whole adult life up to my late thirties thinking I’d broken my brain or was just lazy and couldn’t concentrate. Knowing that that’s just how my brain is wired has made me feel a lot better about myself, and be less harsh to myself when I fuck up, and then being able to learn coping strategies of others in a similar situation has also really helped.

    If you can give up on a new hobby or whatever BEFORE you’ve bought all the things and made your life even more messy isn’t a bad thing at all. If you’ve lent into it and bought all the stuff and nonsense, try to cycle through past hobbies rather than pick up new ones constantly. Find hobbies that complement each other, or use stuff that you already own, and ones that have low cost to try out. If you’re not making yourself skint or your life more messy by trying them out, then trying and quitting doesn’t matter at all, it just increases the chance of you finding something you really enjoy doing.













  • I’m currently plowing through the 9th of the Malazan books by Steven Erikson, and I don’t really want them to finish. One of the best bits of writing I’ve so far encountered.

    I’ve got a foot-high stack of Sanderson to help me get over it though, so that’s ok.

    The Malazan books are in some ways comparable to the Stormlight books, but they are a lot more dense and there’s almost no hand-holding whatsoever. The story is detailed, spread over several continents, and has tons of important characters. You’re expected to remember things from several thousand pages ago without there being any recap, and frankly I like it. When each book is already around 1300 pages, and there’s 10 of them, constant recaps would do my nut in. There’s a good dramatis personae, and a glossary in each book, which helps.