Had a read, would toss it in the “boats at night” pile. There was a geneal misread of the intended vibe of one another. Everyone came in with their genuine hats but left with something off-brand.

The original post is more of a commentary on the fact that old trucks have value just in being old trucks. Beyond the vintage stuff that all vehicles have there are certain trucks that are reliable easy to fix, easy to get parts for and not 4 wheeled tanks; valuable to someone who actually uses a truck as a daily worker. It’s a thing that is mostly unique to trucks because of their value as a work vehicle. (Sprinter type vans also have a similar type thing now because of the vanlife™ community)

So, if your in the know the comment reads a lot like a conversation about those 40yo washing machines that never die that people talk about. Like, no one is saying a 40yo washer is better but also why are they better? Kinda thing

Your comment seems genuine but feels like you misread that whole meta conversation that was happening. Then instead of them looping you in and saying, “Yo, I’m only being half serious” they instead came with “old trucks hold their value way more then you think, also stop being so serious” which is a little unclear vibe-wise.

So there’s a bit of back and forth where you guys are just not really clicking and then you hit em with the: “I’m not sure if you’re illiterate, struggle with reading comprehension, or are just plain stupid, tbh” but I assume you were done at that point 🤷

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All the same words but from me

Why create the “yeah but” space?. If someone points out that there is a problem with gun violence in America the response should be “yeah, that’s not good, we should try and figure out some sort of solution” not “yeah but we donate the most in foreign aid”.

I’m sincerely not taking the piss. I feel like creating that sort of space is dangerous not only because it avoids accountability but also because it feels nice and its easy to do.

But nothing you said is wrong, I don’t think ill of you, not trying to catch you out, I agree with what you are saying. Was just trying to help you follow the thought you were on to see where it would get you.

Any reason you can think of why that might be the case?

Tangential… Do you ever think it’s kind of bizzare that we have instances of a fictional character having infamous lines or quotes but in actuality a different human wrote it who and will often not recieve any credit. Not at all a criticism, just an odd thought. Sorry for the diversion.

Dealing with this as well. Pretty crippling when I find myself without an engaging hobby. It got really bad during the COVID years.

Finding the slow plod out of the depths has be helped by creative activities. I have about 5 projects on the go currently. As ambitious as making a video game to as unimportant as making a small felted sheep.

I didn’t get my diagnosis till I was in my 40s but I found the professional acknowledgement to be helpful. I find it a lot easier to forgive myself for the wasted time and unfinished projects. I’ve also found the ability to forgive myself makes returning to dormant projects a lot easier.

I recently moved to the back and beyond (not helpful at all) but it highlighted how important it is to have people that move you away from your patterned behaviors. Face to face time with another person with ADHD and the same interests is a gold mine for helping break routine getting you to engage and making you feel positive about who and what you are.

Don’t get down on yourself for not being able to find the answers right away. Look for the small things that make life easier and the moments that tend to sap you of energy and limit those (I wear only white tshirts and jeans, have 30 odd pairs of the exact same socks to avoid decision fatigue around getting dressed).

Not sure if it’s helpful but I’m a post 40 child and I’m still finding new things to do. I don’t do as well with learning as I used to but I can attest to the fact that you can still get good at lots of stuff. I’ve learned things like knitting, mountain bikeing, programming, stone masonry, car repair all fairly competently all in my late 30s early 40s.

For me the no.1 take away is self forgiveness. When you can stop wasting energy on the fact that you didn’t accomplish what you wanted, realize that we are biologically hardwired to feel that way and instead give yourself a high five for trying, it definitely gets easier.

Best of luck, hope you get a chance at some point to