Comments like this are why I left reddit. This is a completely hinged and totally reasonable thought process that calls in a question, a lot of facets of the issue and ways them against each other appropriately. Maybe something more crazy would spark a bunch more replies but I totally like that Lemmy is a place that just lets people be normal.
I would say I’ve found pleasure doesn’t have a look/shape. I’ve slept with women that wouldn’t be my conventional choice for based on looks, style, occupation, or something but they have wound up introducing me to awesome new parts of sex or have just executed in a way I never saw coming. I think having a checklist or a pre conceived notion about who you’re going to have sex with is very limiting.