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Cake day: November 9th, 2024

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  • Either way some people will think you’re an asshole.

    In a vacuum, yeah obviously he’s being a piece of shit. I’m honestly not really sure what his point is in saying Democrats did it first? So… it’s ok because they did it first? Or it’s bad, but we’re only saying something because the other team did it (“it’s [d]ifferent”)?

    Frankly, your brother might just be a fucking idiot that believes whatever is put in front of him. That sucks, especially when you have to hear his regurgitated Nazi apologia, but it’s fuzzier whether that means you shouldn’t go to his wedding.

    I mean, it’s also possible that he’s actively malignant, but his response indicates to me a lack of critical thinking.

    And if you want to skip your brother’s wedding because he’s an idiot, then that’s ok! You get to set your own rules and boundaries based on your values and what you are willing to tolerate.

    Personally, I’d probably go. Sure, he has shitty beliefs, but if that’s only because they were spoon fed in meme format to him, is that his fault? Or is that the fault of whatever algorithm he’s subjected to (which is likely under pro-billionaire influence)?

    Either way, I’d recommend spending some time thinking about it before you decide.



  • “Fuck that” is perfectly valid. You don’t owe them anything, and I think you should be extremely selfish in deciding whether to talk to them. You went no contact for a good reason.

    Is there something you want to hear from them? E.g. “I’m sorry”
    What would you want from the relationship?

    IF you decide that you want a relationship, having clearly defined reasons for why you’re doing it will help in assessing if you’re getting what you want from it, and if you should continue the relationship.

    YOU call the shots. YOU define the boundaries. There are no wrong answers.
    Want to talk to him (and him only) on the phone for 20 minutes, once a year? Perfectly fine.
    Happy birthday texts only? Valid.
    You like no contact? No problem.