I visualized “try” as watching a young child climb something that might be out of their comfort zone, so you’re letting them, but stay ready to “catch” them if something goes wrong. I suppose “throw” would be if they soiled themselves in their fall, you can throw them back into the arms of their loving parent for cleaning.
But fuck_around, find_out and yeet would be fantastic.
Hmm. Probably no one.
Small amounts are weird to need “no questions asked” and large amounts are too large to give away “no questions asked”. Partly for me financially, but mostly because there is a not insignificant risk of overdose if you give out large sums of money to someone being cagey about why they need it.
If they can’t tell me what a significant amount of money is for, it’s probably because it’s something I don’t want my money to go to, so I’m not inclined to agree under those premises.
At the least I would need a very good reason for why I can’t ask questions (“I’m preparing to vacation as a fugitive, and don’t want you to have to testify”), but by then there is no longer no questions asked…
Everyone I would give my money to would give that reason unprompted so I wouldn’t have to ask.
Except kids, they might ask just to see if it works, and then I would ask to know what for.
I don’t think I’ve ever been asked to give away something without being offered a reason, actually…
We can’t fix other peoples issues for them.
We can choose to support them if they are actively trying to fix their own issues.
We can also decide that even though they are trying the impact is too big on us and distance ourselves.
But if they aren’t actually trying to better themselves there is nothing we can do except protect ourselves.
Your sister needs to look into co-dependence and trauma-bonding (if not in this case then for future reference), and focus on becoming emotionally independent rather than confusing nurturing with doormat. She can only fix her own issues, not her friends. And learn that not every friend is worth the title.
Are you sure you’re underperforming, or is that just an idea you came up with yourself? Have you talked to a boss or manager about their expectations for your role and if you are meeting those expectations?
It may just be a self-sabotaging thought, and getting confirmation that you are meeting expectations could let you relax and work at a preferred or natural pace without stressing about your performance.
A few tips to better avoid the tinfoil hat-similarities:
Break up your text into more easily digested paragraphs. One chunk of text like this just seems rambling regardless of how poignant it might be.
Stick to one topic, or make the transition from one topic to another make sense. Going from spying cars, to a whole country collecting DNA through pee samples, to corporations are gangs, to fascist world order, to intelligence agencies collect child porn, to not wanting subscriptions in tech, while sprinkling in the Wizard of Oz at random times (in a more thought-out text it could be a powerful comparison to explain the issue or tie in to a red thread, but not just by mentioning the name and moving on)… It gets quite similar to the speech patterns of someone with untreated schizophrenia.
Clarify why you are making a claim. For example the one about intelligence agencies having lots of child porn: Is it a good or a bad thing? Why do they have it? And how does it relate to the topic of seniors issues with tech, or mass surveillance through phones?
Share your sources, especially for the lesser known claims. Put the relevant links at the end of each paragraph so it’s clear what each link refers to and it’s address.