Currently I am a uni student, working 4 days a week during the summer, moving to about 3 during term time.

Every day I’m not working I feel tired constantly, regardless of amount of sleep. I push through anyways to get the work that needs done finished, then sit down and just collapse basically. I wouldn’t even call it relax, just sit and switch off.

I don’t have any energy or motivation to play games anymore, even though I used to play avidly. I play guitar but it’s been feeling like I’m not getting as much out of it now…

Once I’m out of uni, I’ll be in full-time and, if I get into the industry I want, more mentally taxing work.

In short, is there something I’m missing here, or is work-eat-sleep-repeat all there is until I retire? Cause frankly I’m more sure I can be arsed if not…

EDIT

Thanks for the responses, I kinda posted this in a moment of hopelessness for life and I don’t really know what I wanted as a response.

Asking for the meaning of life? Lemmy’s great and all, but I don’t think I’ll find it here lmao

Regardless, there’s a few things here for me to look into and take further, so thank you again!

If this is to close for comfort for rule 3, feel free to delete mods

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    Life is what you make of it. There’s no meaning, no purpose. You have to make your own. That takes effort, but it can be rewarding.

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      There’s no meaning, no purpose. You have to make your own. That takes effort, but it can be rewarding.

      It’s like an open sandbox RPG. But you’re forced to play it.

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      I’ve always said the meaning of life is a blank page. You get to fill out out. But that’s both freeing and terrifying at the same time.

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        Except it’s not really you /get/ to fill it out. It’s more like you have to start filling it or you will die. If you ever let your pen stall for too long, you will become homeless, and you will starve. I’m just so tired and my page is still so blank.

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          That depends on your perspective. You are describing the terrifying aspects of filling out a blank page that represents your life. Not the time for writer’s block to be sure!

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    There’s no meaning to life. It’s a scam of an idea that we all fall prey to. Instead, think of it as just creating new meaning to it every single day depending on what you think and do. It’s a liberating feeling, to be honest. Because now you don’t have to stress yourself out to figure out some grand meaning [that doesn’t exist] and inevitably failing and being depressed over that.

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      Absolutely correct. There is no inherent meaning to life. You get to decide what the meaning of your life is. For me, this is the purpose of my life:

      • Be happy, and make other people happy too.

      This is the objective. Then I try to figure out what steps will best accomplish that goal. Sometimes choosing to do something unpleasant now will lead to overall more happiness in your life, like going to the dentist so you don’t lose a tooth. But don’t just do a constant stream of unpleasant things just because society or family pressure you to do them. Do what you want to do with your own life.

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        I disagree a bit.

        There is a meaning to life, but too many people are taught that the meaning of life will be foisted upon them by the invisible hand of fate and fail to realize that the meaning of life is kind of like the meaning of lego. You are given all of the pieces, what you make out of it is what is valuable.

        So I agree with you that you do have to make something out of life to have a meaningful life but I disagree that it’s a void and nebulous thing that you somehow have to wrest a shape from the nothingness for it to matter, that it has no inherent meaning.

        The meaning of life is that we have the opportunity to create something out of the pieces we are given, not that we have to make a meaning out of something that is meaningless.

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    I am 26 and have been in the workforce for a few years.

    In short, is there something I’m missing here, or is work-eat-sleep-repeat all there is until I retire?

    Yes, except for the fact that you and I will not be able to retire.

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      I’m almost twice your age and found out the holy 401k that I’ve been putting money into magically has hardly anything in it. So yeah, I’m not getting the retirement that was promised either.

      But luckily I got brought down with a huge illness, so I get to “retire” on medical disability. I’m thankful for that.

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          Thanks, I appreciate it.
          It could have been way worse. So it’s ok. Instead of going to work I go to doctors offices every few days. The rest of the time I do whatever I want. I’m actually enjoying life right now :)

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    It sounds like you’re experiencing anhedonia, which is strongly associated with depression. Ultimately life is cyclical, day to day, week to week, etc, but there should be frequent periods of happiness sprinkled in there, where you spend time doing things you like with people you like. If you can’t find anything like that, maybe talk to a therapist.

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    In short, is there something I’m missing here, or is work-eat-sleep-repeat all there is until I retire?

    You might die before then. I definitely saw “bottlenecks” in my mid-20s and late-40s where friends dropped like flies and some never got back up again.

    Anyway, it sounds like you are having a crisis - people talk about the mid-life crisis but they can happen at any age but often a turning point:

    • Late teens - wait! I have to grow up and get serious?
    • End of Uni - wait! I have to get a job and all that other adult nonsense?
    • 30 - wait! I should really be married and having kids by now.
    • 40 - wait! My biological clock is ticking, I haven’t been promoted like I thought I would and my body is starting to creak.
    • 50 - well that didn’t turn out how I wanted but there’s still time.
    • 60 - where did my life go? Ah well, retirement is looming, I can’t wait for all that free time.
    • 70 - death is looming, where did all that free time go?

    Unfortunately, the meaning of life is what you make of it, so start managing your expectations.and don’t measure your happiness against other people’s - they’re probably less happy than they appear.

    I can’t claim to have any clear answers but find.out what you love doing and build your life around doing more of that. Don’t let your worklife eat into your personal time. Stop caring what people think about you, but that’s not a license to be a dick. Make the world a better place for having you in it. If you need help, ask. Eat well, don’t smoke, drink in moderation and wear sunblock - these things will help your later life be more worthwhile.

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      I think at around age 50 theres some negative sentiment towards younger generations and that racket they keep making. Source: am 50

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          I used to be with ‘it’, but then they changed what ‘it’ was. Now what I’m with isn’t ‘it’ anymore and what’s ‘it’ seems weird and scary. It’ll happen to you

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    Yes, there is more.

    You sound like you are experiencing burnout and as a result anhedonia and depression.

    Burnout is a very real clinical condition caused by the demands you are operating under being dysfunctional in some way. It is very real and can lead to a dangerous depression.

    Anhedonia is the loss of enjoyment in things you previously enjoyed. For example, when I had anhedonia video games because uninteresting, boring even, and the effort required to play was too much and there was no reward to playing.

    You need to deal with this before it escalates into full blown depression and burnout. It can take much longer to fix than it will take to stop now, so get started ASAP. Starting an antidepressant may be helpful, it may not, but it is just one tool and I personally would avoid it having done it before.

    The other steps for managing burnout are largely about changing the demands on you, the level of connection to other people, and what you do to relax. Exercise is a really helpful tool and honestly is what makes me resilient against another bout of burnout now.

    Good luck

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      This comment right here.

      With burnout and depressive states your ability to foresee the good in life, or even experiences outside of the grind, is severely curtailed: you essentially develop emotional tunnel vision. A psychiatrist can help you break the negative spiral.

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    Every day I’m not working I feel tired constantly, regardless of amount of sleep.

    It may be worth to check this with a doctor. What you describe may be sleep apnea. It is less common in young people but is better to check.

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      That, low Vitamin D levels (I suffered from exactly this due to being a shut-in + pandemic quarantine) or a bunch different things.

      You definitely should not be waking up tired from just working. Get checked.

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    Also I am just thrilled that so many here have encouraged you to view your awareness of just how shitty the system is as a mental illness, as a failure on your part to be correctly integrated into society. There is nothing wrong with you. What is wrong is the system itself.

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    Make sure that you’re not depressed, this sounds like it. But it doesn’t have to be a mental thing.

    Get your bloodwork done at a doctor (tell them you’re constantly tired / don’t have energy), that’s the first check. If that checks out then you might be getting enough sleep, but it’s shitty quality.

    For example despite 8+ hours a night I was feeling like crap most of the day. Well, my nose closed in the night and I couldn’t breathe properly, which lead to awful sleep (I just had an operation for it, it has already gotten better but is still healing off). If you can breathe well through your nose, maybe do a sleep study to check if you actually get restful sleep.

    If all of that checks out too, then you might have to do lifestyle changes. More fresh air, sun, workouts, eating better, but you know the drill already.

    I’m also like you at times, and have been for a long time, but it does get better. One thing that’s a bit crappy though is if you’re in the US then vacation time is very limited (here in EU countries we don’t have that problem as much). But really first check your health, you might confuse something being wrong with your body with a mental problem.

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    Just sounds like Vitamin D deficit, or something else related to not getting proper rest from sleep. This is not typical of someone your age.

    Funny enough, I’m only saying this because I hate how fast some general practitioners are at diagnosing it, so the irony isn’t lost on me. But you’re actually stating the issues, and not just saying “I’m a programmer/factory worker” which is all it takes with them and why I despise it.

    Get a blood test done if you want to make sure. Don’t just listen to the internet.

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    That’s why we need to strive toward working less hours in general. Full time hours take up most of your waking hours when you factor in prep time, commute etc

    What you do with your free time can make a world of difference of course but the math just doesn’t work out when you get home and have like 4 hours to do everything you need to do before you have to go to sleep.

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      Agree… The fact that many people here think that if you’re not happy woking, eating, sleeping then you’re probably ill, it kinda scares me tbh

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    You’re experiencing burnout. Rest up enough to improve your mental state, not finding joy in previous hobbies is a telltale sign. Try something that requires less critical focal or lets you take reprieve from your day to day schedule; vegging out, going for a walk, casual talk with friends, get counseling if you feel you need it, etc. The system will bleed everyone dry and leave them to rot if you let it. Take that time back and invest it in yourself.

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      @Shazbot

      “The system will bleed everyone dry and leave them to rot if you let it”
      👆
      This! Exactly this.
      Our system is designed to explore the weakest. Once you get trapped on the rate wheel you are done.
      It’s almost impossible for someone from a lower income family background to climb the “ladder”.
      A few things can help :
      - Live with less
      - Do a job that you like
      - Eat healthy
      - Do exercise
      - Get a Hobby
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    We live in a sick society, so don’t let anyone tell you you’re the one who’s ill because the full time cycle of work-eat-sleep wears you down. You’d have to be sick to enjoy this system.

    The system that requires you and I toil away day by day is temporary. One day (maybe not soon) we won’t have to work our lives away, either because we’ll need to survive or because the collective consciousness will finally realize that we’re living post-scarcity.

    Either way, that’s what I look forward to and in the mean time I just do what I can to make sure I’m not completely miserable.

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    As others have said. If you feel like shit all day no matter how much you sleep then its most likely a diet issue. It’s crazy how normalized completely shit diets are. Its not going to be easy to fix. You’re going to have to do a lot of experimentation and research to see what works for you. I never really had a terrible diet and I felt okay most days. Never thought much of it but once I started to exercise more and looked into sports science on diets I realized how bad my diet actually was. After changing it and getting proper nutrition I was pretty shocked at how much better I felt. I was awake and alert all day and got great sleep. Definitely get a blood test or something. I also recommend doing some research on getting quality sleep. If you’re getting a lot of sleep but its shit quality then it doesnt mean a whole lot. Consistent sleep schedule, eating at the right times, and managing the light you take in during the day can make a huge difference.

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      This may sound bougie AF. For anyone not used to eating a balanced diet, I recommend trying one of those meal delivery services for a few weeks, when it’s heavily discounted. My wife and I recently tried one which has options with a ton of veggies. Even after just two weeks, we feel a lot better than before. Before being when we ate almost as bad as teenagers with their parents out of town and a freezer full of hot pockets and chicken tendies.

      The one we’re using includes its recipes, including ingredients and their measurements, with each meal, so we’re just going to cancel and start making stuff on our own after the promotion ends.

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        You might check out mealime. It’s got the same information, only you put in a meal plan and it creates a shopping list. So if 2 recipes call for a half a head of cabbage each it’ll have you buy a single cabbage.

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        We found these too expensive and wasteful, for what you get, to continue using them. But we did keep some of the recipes and we still make them on our own.

        If this helps someone get a jumpstart on home cooking, it’s well worth it. You can get the same from just trying more things from a cookbook but if the hassle of planning and shopping is a barrier to getting started, then by all means try one of these services and learn to cook.

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    I was a chef for over a decade and worked in Michelin kitchens where I gave myself up for next to nothing. When I made it to two stars, I began vomiting repeatedly every shift, working at a loss of $100 dollars a day. Eventually, I broke down and tried to kill myself by the city river, but regrettably I failed.

    If you live in America, all I can say is that if you are a man and you don’t work, and you are alone and have no one to support you, you will eventually be killed. If you aren’t killed on the street, you’re killed in lock up because it’s illegal to exist here without employment. Mental facilities funnel into jails where the bodies pass daily. At my city’s coroner’s, there are 400+ deaths unaccounted for, 100+ murders per year. I was sent there as a warning in California’s HAM program. I was forced to watch people die and watch their autopsies as well as tour the whole facility, examining all the corpses. All the corpses whose genitals have catheters in them are people who died with no one to claim them, their organs are placed in hefty bags which are then sewed haphazardly back into their torso. The working class bodies are all Mexican, all under 60.

    When I was homeless, on two occasions people tried to murder me and they only stopped because they thought I was dead. My medical debt in my twenties reached over ten million from all the hospital stays. I’ve learned that there are fates WAY worse than death, and you should always have the materials for an exit bag or an LD of insulin. In our society, if you are an extremely poor man, your agency amounts to, “will I continue to suffer another day? Or will I do what everyone wants and liquidate myself.”

    The reason I say all this is, when you don’t want to work, remember it’s not just money you lose but also the good will of others, including family members. The people you respect most put clown makeup on every day and freak out when you don’t. I know this because I made a small fortune on the gamespot/and squeezes and my fortunes literally changed overnight. The money literally solved all my problems and I’m left disgusted. It also showed me how hard I was working for so little. I know now I’d rather die fighting breathlessly, as I always have, fighting for myself and my life. My life in the street was FAR more meaningful than the ones I’ve lived according to cowardice, constantly learning to cope with cowardice. The bottom line: make sure you know you’re ready to leave the beaten path before you do because I promise you, life outside the social contract is indeed nasty, brutal and short.

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      God… I am sorry you gone through all that. And, it’s very brave of you to explain your life, difficulties, different situations and your perspective. Thank you. You really gave me an insight, I mean it.

      While reading this, I thought about my perspective to life. I am in my early twenties and try to do different stuff to earn my life, pursue some kind of satisfaction. This makes me get tired every day, and consider killing myself constantly. Now, I don’t.

      This summer I’ve gone through an emptiness, moneylessness. I agree, without money, I think about what to eat in the most economical way. That leads to more depression. Then every night I tried to find a purpose to not to kill myself and with this comment, it’s done. I accept a perspective to life now.

      Seeing all successful people, whether successful since born (nice family, good looking, no major illness…) or by later (breaking the chain of poverty, being the best at one stuff…) people damn kill themselves or be in a depression either thisbor that way. This fucking possibility stays there.

      Seeing this situation, I accept the life on it’s own. That’s it. Born, study, socialize, work, get lost. Again, with your comment, I rationalized my perspective. I am, really, now happy with who I am and know how to make it be that way. Do my business, and fuck it. There’ll be no miracles, there’s no one to help you be happier.

      Thank you. I wonder how can I prove it but you really helped me. I needed some rationalization.

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        I’m so proud you’ve had a breakthrough. Your two greatest allies: patience and curiosity. With those you can become whatever you want.