Every time I encounter another problem with my body that a healthy person wouldn’t have, I’m always tempted to think to myself that nobody would want a partner like me because they could just pick someone healthier and more capable. I’m in my early 20s and my health is already getting a little worse each year without any real way to stop it.
I could tell myself that my unique story is compelling, and that enduring all of this hardship has cultivated a more powerful mindset than mainstream materialism and hyperindividualism, and that anyone who shares my values would appreciate me for who I am, even if it means potentially foregoing wealth and luxury. But I just wish I had something more to go off of, something a little more than just blind hope.
I know that lacking confidence and having an external locus of control aren’t helping at all, but I find that I can only feel confidence and control if I have a solid, well-reasoned belief that I can succeed and my actions are meaningful.
So, I’d really appreciate any success stories, those who found love despite having challenging medical issues, or any good arguments you might have. I don’t think there will be any one thing that does it for me; every little bit will help. Thank you.
I have a close friend who met her spouse through a support group for a medical condition they both have. While each new diagnosis is a challenge, it can also be a new avenue to connect with other people. Get into support groups, advocacy and related activities and let those communities help you feel less alone. With that, you will naturally meet and mingle with others who understand your situation, and that’s how you find a romantic partnership.