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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • This is all my personal experience but as I’ve gotten older, it requires more time and effort to maintain friendships. People get busy with their own lives (work, kids, moving away, change in hobbies). Sorry this post is going to be a bit long because it requires some backstory.

    Some of the things you mentioned sound like someone from my friend group, I’ll call him Steve since that’s his name. There were a bunch of us who were together every weekend in our 20s, usually going to bars, concerts, or sporting events and drinking a lot. Steve slowed down on the drinking earlier than the rest of us, then he got more involved in his church which is where he met his now wife. We didn’t see much of Steve after that and I eventually moved away. That friend group still does the occasional outing and I know Steve isn’t involved in those. I remain in contact with Steve and he texted me a few weeks ago about something he wanted to do, I don’t live in town so I suggested another friend and Steve replied that they don’t hang out anymore. This was my reply to him and I think it’s appropriate here: “There’s something my dad told [my brother] when we were growing up but I always remembered it for some reason, it’s about friends/spending time with them. It was something along the lines of “somebody’s gotta make an effort or nothing is gonna happen”.

    We all still love Steve and I always invite him out with the larger friend group when I go home which he usually takes me up on. But, I spoke to the friend I suggested to Steve and she that friend said that he hasn’t heard from Steve in months.

    This is a really long way of me saying that friendships require work to maintain sometimes. If you want to join in or be thought of as someone to be included regularly, then you need to reach out and start the conversation or it might not happen. If they’re true friends, they should have no problem including you again and it should be like old times. If you have force your way back in or they’re still not inviting you regularly then maybe you have just grown apart. The other side is, if you are invited, you need to join somewhat regularly. If you say no all the time, they’ll just stop inviting you again.



  • I understand the sentiment and yes, just like everything else, capitalism has turned death into a money making racket at the expense of the average person.

    I live near a cemetery currently and was raised near a different one, they make great neighbors. Quiet and the one near me now is also a wildlife refuge so I can’t call that wasted space. Yes, it’s privately owned but it’s open to the public. Also, I work in historic preservation and love working in and exploring cemeteries.

    In the end, I just love the blend of history, architecture, and nature in one place.





  • Last month, Elon Musk revived the term and told Fox News host Sean Hannity he used to be “adored by the left” until they were infected with TDS.

    From what I remember, it had nothing to do with Trump and everything to do with you calling the experts who successfully rescued a bunch of children trapped in a cave, “pedo guy” along with all your other aggressive tactics to silence critics. Followed by the Twitter purchase.


  • It’s a lot of different factors and unfortunately the movie industry has just been going on inertia and greed for years and this is the result of that.

    Another commenter mentioned prices. Prices for everything have risen but when it costs more for a month of a streaming service than the price of one movie ticket it makes the movie ticket harder to justify.

    Speaking of streaming, it’s obviously far easier to stream a movie at home rather than make the effort to go to the theater. Add the cost and complexity of child care if you’re a parent and a night out at the movies is expensive and a headache.

    Take those two factors out and you’re still up against the issue of time and marketing. This is the more personal one for me so these examples below are my personal thoughts and feelings.

    Before the night of the Oscars, I had only heard of two of the nominees for best pictures and only had the chance to see one in theaters. I see the advertisements but I’ll be honest unless the ad really piques my interest, I don’t know where to watch said movie. Is it streaming? What service? I don’t know they showed the logo at the end but I wasn’t paying enough attention. Is it in the theater? It is? Ok, let’s go see it, oh it was only in the theater for two weeks but you can stream it now on Amazon for $20. I don’t want to stream it and I wanted to see it in a theater. And if I want to see it badly enough, I don’t want to pay Jeff Bezos the money to do that so I’ll wait until it’s on one of the ones I subscribe to. Or it’s a movie like Mikey 17. I’ve never heard of that movie anywhere except on this website and about half the times it’s been mentioned, it was in articles like this saying, “why isn’t anyone going to the movies?” Same shit happened last year with “Fall Guy”. Movies used to be allowed to grow and find their audience, now it’s all the bottom dollar and extracting that value as soon as possible.