What pieces of media influenced them the most.
What music are you listening to at the moment?
Favourite bands can be divisive and sometimes people answer with what they think you want to hear. Current listens can be stuff you love, stuff you’ve discovered, stuff that’s catchy or stuff that’s a long term favourite.
You hungry? Cause im starving!
My go-to is to ask what they like to do in their spare time.
A lot of the time you’ll get answers about how they have none or how it’s filled with chores, but you can always redirect and say, if you suddenly had a bunch of free time just for yourself, and you couldn’t use it to work, what would you fill it with?
In my mind the latter gets you down to what brings them joy, and in some cases how they want to see themselves, which can tell you a lot about a person.
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Depends on the context you met the person. Say of it’s a coworker, ask what got them into that line of work. This will reveal the motivations and interests, if any, behind their job choice.
You can ask something similar if you met doing some other activity ( tabletop rpg, kayaking, you name it).
Alternatively… You can ask what they do for a living and work from there.
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On the internet maybe. But in real life this is quick way to never have a follow up conversation haha
How many toes do you have.
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I think those questions say more about the person asking them. None of these (except maybe the last one) ask about political views, interests besides technology, humor, or what they care about the most if it’s not one of the things directly asked about.
I think those questions say more about the person asking them
I don’t see the problem. It is an AskLemmy question afterall, which means OP was after different questions, and so mine are just as valid.
political views
IMO, political views are meaningless when there isn’t a single decent political party out there, and if there is, it would be so niche that your vote doesn’t really matter. At least, that’s the case where I live. Both the major parties here have issues, and the party I really want to support would never get in power. So I don’t see the point of asking about political views. I almost never talk about politics, and I’ve never had any issues getting along with people.
interests besides technology
Everyone uses technology these days, whether they are interested in it or not. But which platform they prefer can tell you a lot about that person, so, IMO, it’s an important question. Afterall, this question is being asked on Lemmy, so I’d imagine at least one of those questions could be relevant to OP.
humor
Not really relevant, IMO unless you’re planning to marry that person or form a close relationship. Besides, how would you frame this question… “do you like jokes?” Like, what would you even ask them, such that the their reply would matter to you?
