This was all just a bad dream and I’m waking up to Mortal Kombat for the Sega Genesis under the tree in 1993.
A particular orange turd to face the consequences of his actions or croak.
Well he’ll never face criminal justice cuz he’ll either pardon himself or have his final Big Mac Attack - and then he’s replaced by Vance. My wish is for him to golf and tweet his way through another 4 years and hopefully the Dems get their shit more together.
No one mention any far right talking points
My husband and I are trying to have a baby, so a positive test would be amazing.
I want to have children, but cannot afford them for an undetermined amount of time. Fingers crossed that we’ll have enough money someday!
Our experience is that basically the only really expensive thing is childcare. Are you eligible for subsidized, or free, care (or have trustworthy and willing relatives)?
As for gear, babies don’t need much. But for what they do need, reach out to friends, neighbors, and family! We’re fortunate that we could have afforded everything new, but we really only bought a few things because friends and randos alike gave us so much free kid stuff (we bought a nice stroller, a baby basket, and an IKEA crib — basically everything else was a hand-me-down). Join local “buy nothing” groups, or parent groups (sadly they’re usually WhatsApp, but whatever). Most people hate throwing away stuff, and would rather it go to a good home.
Look at programs for subsidized/free necessities like diapers. There are lots of resources out there, especially in cities.
As everyone else said, no one feels ready. We certainly didn’t!
3 kids here 12 and under. If you are mentally and emotionally ready for kids just do it. That’s the big secret. You will never be ready financially. Kids adapt and will be happy so long as you are stable and can provide the most important necessities like love, a roof and food.
We are both men, and my spouse is still in the process of immigrating here, hehe. I know we’ll never be financially ready, but I want him here while we navigate surrogacy (preferred, but expensive) or adoption.
We’ll figure it out!
We’ll figure it out!
Exactly. Life doesn’t wait.
If I had serious financial stress I cannot imagine also having kid stress. What if one needs serious medical attention or has special education needs?
I dunno. This seems reckless.
Granted in America yes those are concerns we don’t have to the same degree in Canada but all things considered having a kid is reckless anyways. You either adapt and make it work or you don’t.
So, possible, but they probably won’t. Anything can happen at any time and you could do everything right and it could all fail spontaneously and catastrophically through no fault of your own. Its not a likely outcome though.
It only seems reckless until you step back and think about it rationally. You can’t expect to prepare for everything so spend your time on more legitimate worries.
Seconding other comments, you’ll never ever be financially ready, there will always be new concerns, but that was true for most parents. People far less intelligent and less prepared than you have figured it out and done alright.
Wish I had friends to spend it with instead of a person who is abusive and swears at me every day.
Oh man that’s so sad. Based on your posts & comments you seem like a lovely person. :( I’ll be your friend!
Aww thank you. I appreciate your friendship.
Functional government with a solid social safety net.
A country which doesn’t have a culture of greed and psychopathy.I already know what I’m getting because it was all disclosed via Amazon wishlist and (although I did have the “no spoilers” option or whatever is called enabled) my brother just blabbed it was empty.
I didn’t have much on it tbf. But I guess I know what I’m getting. Except I’ve forgotten some of it by now, so it’s kind of a surprise.
My wife to stop drinking.
man, similar boat. sometimes she can’t even stand straight without teetering, and I’m tired of fighting over it. if anything, this will be the cause to our end.
I know how people here feel about reddit, but https://old.reddit.com/r/Alanon can help you get away or communicate better possibly.
Oooft hope my wife wouldn’t write something like this about me. No actual drama but my routine of being a middle-class wine drinker sinking glasses in front of the tv in the evening could be considered problematic.
as long as you handle all your responsibilities, it is what it is. when I can’t communicate with my partner or have to keep asking her to handle responsibilities or have the exact same conversation every day because she can’t remember? that’s a big problem. if I can’t trust my partner, then why are we together.
That does sound worse. Hope you guys manage to navigate this bumpy patch.
Merry Christmas too!
Linux market share to grow more
B… But I thought 2025 would be the year of the Linux desktop!
I’d like to skip Christmas, I get nothing out of it but headaches. I don’t enjoy the family get togethers (individually or in small groups my family is mostly fine, but all of them at once is too much) I don’t want anything that can reasonably be asked for or given as a present, and I don’t have any space for the useless junk I’ll inevitably receive.
What I need/want is money. I’m not struggling, but I have projects and things I’m saving up for and whatever they’d spend on gifts if they feel like they need to give me something I’d much rather them just give me the cash or Venmo me. They’re not going to gift me a new heater, deck, washer/dryer, paint for my living room, etc. the best I can hope for is some gift cards to Lowes, home Depot, etc. and inevitably the cards will all be to different places so I can’t even use them all on what they’re intended to go towards, and there’s a good chance that once I’ve saved up enough I’ll get the best price at a store I don’t even have any gift cards for, so they’re going to sit around collecting dust because I’ll never remember to grab them when I need to go buy a box of screws or something.
Just give me cash.
Sex. Not gonna happen with the kids at home and houseguests.
What about your spouse/partner? Maybe they’d have sex with you instead?
Dunno, OP sounds kinda kinky.
Snow
real and true.
Happiness.
The same touchscreen gloves I got two years ago that are no longer being made. There’s three pairs on eBay and if no one buys them for me I’m buying them all for myself.
Find a pair of gloves you love and use Conductive thread sewn in an x pattern a few times. Works great.
Used to be it was hard to find touchscreen gloves. Now most gloves are touchscreen.
touchscreenis indeed the easy part
these gloves were so warm for how thin they were, that’s what made them special
I really want to know more about these gloves that have inspired this level of dedication but if you tell me about them I’m probably going to go buy them.
I appreciate the honesty.
